Better be sure and listen close the first time

(I’m totally ignoring how long it’s been since I updated.)

There’s a “mommy blog” I read daily. In addition to her regular blog, she has an advice-column blog* that has become rather famous (at least in the Mommy Blogging community). She and her husband have two boys, and have been divorced for about a year. He ALSO has a rather famous blog*, and of course, they’ve chosen to be open about their marriage and divorce and the problems therein.

Which leads to some, um, INTERESTING posts, to say the least. For instance, she almost immediately started dating again (which was fine, they were divorced) and met a man who was “perfect” for her. Blah blah blah soulmate blah blah blah. This man lives far away from her (she lives in NYC and from what it sounded like, he lived somewhere in the South, maybe FL) and she wanted to move down to where he lives with her kids, and OHMIGOD SHOCKANDHORROR, Dad would not acquiesce! The nerve! So she writes several days of posts lamenting his selfishness (even going so far as to say, “I offered major, MAJOR concessions, but he likes his job too much here.” Eff him, apparently, and his happiness.) and even “taking time off” from the blog to wallow in the unfairness of it all.

He, on the other hand, hardly ever mentions the divorce (with regards to the boyfriend/move, he only mentions “going over things I thought we’d settled.”) only talks about the kids, his job, etc.

One of the things I’ve learned to be most true is that the only people who know what’s going on in a marriage are the two people in it. Except when you vomit your troubles all over the internet, I guess.

(*I’m not going to link them, but I’ll tell you their blog names if you want.)